One theme that I consistently run into is a deep lack of CONTENTMENT... and it's got me wondering why?
Contentment is defined simply as: a state of happiness and satisfaction.
Statistics say that if we have a roof over our head and a meal on our plate, we are richer than 93% of the world. Owning one pair of shoes makes us 75% richer. The average U.S. credit card debt is $16,000 per household, so obviously, just spending money doesn't make us content. Even if we have some area of lack, why can't we be happy and satisfied (content) as we work towards our goals?
I sat with 2 very different women this week, at different times, in different locations, yet they were both dealing with the same root issue... a deep sense of being Discontent... One was "60 something". One was "20 something". I don't think either of them knew they were dealing with a lack of contentment, but they were! The first was very discontent with her perceived "lot in life" and how she sees her life ending up, even though to a lot of us she has it all. The second is dissatisfied "with her looks and what she doesn't have". She is beautiful, fit, has a handsome, wealthy boyfriend and is living very comfortably in a major city.
Both of these women, when asked, are grateful for what they have. They know they are healthy, strong, intelligent... BUT it's a very different thing to "know" it, than it is to believe it. Contentment is an inside to outside job, it doesn't work the other way around. No matter how much "stuff" we throw at- on- or in- ourselves, it can never be enough to fill the void that screams from within "YOU ARE NOT ENOUGH"...
My theory is that we are not meant to be enough, in and of ourselves. We are made to need other people to help fill our voids- and we are meant to help fill theirs. The happiest, most content women I know are the women who have learned that when they are starting to feel less than contentment with their own lives, it is time to get the focus off themselves and to go help someone else.
Let me know what you think...???