As with our physical health, just treating or covering up the symptoms doesn't get to the root of what's causing our health problems. Covering up our internal feelings of lack or unworthiness with addictions like shopping, drugs, sex, alcohol, sugar, approval... doesn't get to the root of our unhappiness either. It's like covering up our constant headaches with Tylenol... it may relieve the pain for a time, but it doesn't cure the recurring pain issue. And worse, taking Tylenol daily will have as horrible an impact on your physical health as shopping all the time to fill a void, will have on your financial health.
One of the biggest issues my clients deal with is that of comparing themselves to other women... consciously or unconsciously... I am constantly hearing women make comparison statements: "I wish my thighs looked like hers." "How come she can eat whatever she wants and not gain weight?" "Her husband is so sweet (compared to mine)" "I wish I could afford to drive a car like that." All of these comparisons boil down to either not wanting to take personal responsibility for where we are in life enough to change it, or a feeling of lack... of not being good enough, pretty enough, thin enough, loved enough, rich enough... ______ (fill in the blank) enough... Which means we can blame someone else!
We've all had the experience of sizing someone up, or being sized up by someone else. It's a yucky (yes, yucky is a technical term in my book) feeling to be on either end of that exchange. There's a reason Jealousy has been called a "Green Monster". Throughout history, jealousy has been the reason behind most heinous crimes, and wars... Wanting what someone else has- instead of what I have- means I'm jealous and ungrateful. Jealousy will steal your joy and destroy you and your relationships. Jealousy partnered with selfishness can even cause us to "Take" what someone else has, whether that's on an emotional, spiritual or physical level... It needs to be stopped in its tracks. If you have a jealousy problem you may need to talk to a counselor, therapist, or pastor. (If you think you have a jealousy problem, but aren't sure, ask people closest to you...they'll tell you!)
Being ungrateful means we stop growing where we are. We may not move into the obsessive "Jealousy" stage, but we certainly are on the path of a negative life. Gratitude is an vital part of being healthy. Believe it or not, no matter where you are in life right now, there is someone else who would love to have what you have... Take a moment to assess where you are! Are you comparing yourself to others? Stop It!! (simple not easy) There is a huge difference between seeking a mentor or role model and doing what they did to achieve success, and negatively comparing ourselves to others and going no where except down the emotional drain in the bottom of the "stinky life" toilet...
Remember: We are 3-part beings. ~Mind~Body~Spirit~ Balance